QUICK - Relationship Readiness Assessment
Are you really ready for a committed relationship?
Check out the quiz below or download a longer version that covers everything you would ever like to consider on your pathway to relationship happiness.
Relationship Readiness assessment.pdf
To assess your readiness for a committed relationship, rate yourself in each of the following ten areas. Try to be objective and honest with yourself. I recommend asking close friends and family members for their opinions as well. I recommend printing this out first.
Rating Scale: for each question, 1-10, 10 as most true.
____1. I know what I want
I have a clear vision for my life and relationship. I can envision my perfect life in rich detail that feels strong, very real, and keeps me motivated.
____2. I know my requirements
I have a written list of at least ten non-negotiable requirements that I use for screening potential partners. I am clear that if any are missing, a relationship will not work for me.
____3. I am happy and successful being single
I enjoy my life, my work, my family, my friends, and my own company. I am living the life that I want, and I am not seeking a relationship out of desperation and need.
____4. I am ready and available for commitment
I have no emotional or legal baggage from a previous relationship. My schedule, commitments and lifestyle allow my availability to build a new relationship.
____5. I am satisfied with my work/career
My work is fulfilling, supports my lifestyle, and does not interfere with my availability for a new relationship.
____6. I am healthy in mind, body, and spirit
My physical, mental, or emotional health does not interfere with having the life and relationship that I want. I am reasonably happy and feel good.
____7. My financial and legal business is handled
I have no financial or legal issues that would interfere with having the life and relationship that I want.
____8. My family relationships are functional
My relationships with my children, ex, siblings, parents, and extended family do not interfere with having the life and relationship that I want.
____9. I have effective dating skills
I initiate contact with people I want to meet, and disengage from people who are not a match for me. I keep my sexual and emotional boundaries, and balance my heart with my head with potential partners.
____10. I have effective relationship skills
I understand relationships, can maintain closeness and intimacy, communicate authentically and assertively, negotiate difference positively, allow myself to trust and be vulnerable, and can give and receive love without emotional barriers.
____Add up your total score
SCORING
80-100:Green light
► You are well on your way to the life and relationship you really want.
60- 79:Yellow light
► Continue to work on the areas needed and take it slow in relationships. Consider hiring a coach to help you enhance those specific areas of your life.
0-59:Red light
► Focus on your own personal development and being a successful single for now.
Get support for any areas below a 5 rating from a coach, therapist, clergy-person or other professional to raise your assessment of yourself in 1 area at a time.
by David Steele, MA, LMFT, founder of Relationship Coaching Institute, adapted,
with permission
Check out the quiz below or download a longer version that covers everything you would ever like to consider on your pathway to relationship happiness.
Relationship Readiness assessment.pdf
To assess your readiness for a committed relationship, rate yourself in each of the following ten areas. Try to be objective and honest with yourself. I recommend asking close friends and family members for their opinions as well. I recommend printing this out first.
Rating Scale: for each question, 1-10, 10 as most true.
____1. I know what I want
I have a clear vision for my life and relationship. I can envision my perfect life in rich detail that feels strong, very real, and keeps me motivated.
____2. I know my requirements
I have a written list of at least ten non-negotiable requirements that I use for screening potential partners. I am clear that if any are missing, a relationship will not work for me.
____3. I am happy and successful being single
I enjoy my life, my work, my family, my friends, and my own company. I am living the life that I want, and I am not seeking a relationship out of desperation and need.
____4. I am ready and available for commitment
I have no emotional or legal baggage from a previous relationship. My schedule, commitments and lifestyle allow my availability to build a new relationship.
____5. I am satisfied with my work/career
My work is fulfilling, supports my lifestyle, and does not interfere with my availability for a new relationship.
____6. I am healthy in mind, body, and spirit
My physical, mental, or emotional health does not interfere with having the life and relationship that I want. I am reasonably happy and feel good.
____7. My financial and legal business is handled
I have no financial or legal issues that would interfere with having the life and relationship that I want.
____8. My family relationships are functional
My relationships with my children, ex, siblings, parents, and extended family do not interfere with having the life and relationship that I want.
____9. I have effective dating skills
I initiate contact with people I want to meet, and disengage from people who are not a match for me. I keep my sexual and emotional boundaries, and balance my heart with my head with potential partners.
____10. I have effective relationship skills
I understand relationships, can maintain closeness and intimacy, communicate authentically and assertively, negotiate difference positively, allow myself to trust and be vulnerable, and can give and receive love without emotional barriers.
____Add up your total score
SCORING
80-100:Green light
► You are well on your way to the life and relationship you really want.
60- 79:Yellow light
► Continue to work on the areas needed and take it slow in relationships. Consider hiring a coach to help you enhance those specific areas of your life.
0-59:Red light
► Focus on your own personal development and being a successful single for now.
Get support for any areas below a 5 rating from a coach, therapist, clergy-person or other professional to raise your assessment of yourself in 1 area at a time.
by David Steele, MA, LMFT, founder of Relationship Coaching Institute, adapted,
with permission
| relationshipreadinessassessment.pdf |
